Couples who co-create a shared worldview find greater meaning in life
McGill-led study shows that being ‘on the same page’ reduces uncertainty in tumultuous times and increases satisfaction with life and work
McGill University
Fostering shared understanding between romantic partners may be a powerful way for people to navigate uncertainty and build a more meaningful life, a study by McGill researchers suggests.
The study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found that co-creating a shared worldview can buffer against distress, even in highly charged social and political contexts. For example, front-line health-care workers during the COVID-19 pandemic and Black Americans during the Black Lives Matter movement reported less uncertainty and more meaning when they understood the world around them in the same way as their partners. Sharing a perception of reality with a partner makes one’s view of reality seem true.
While previous research has shown that people overwhelmingly cite personal relationships as their primary source of meaning in life, it has been less clear which aspects of relationships contribute to this feeling.
“Our approach was different from earlier work on how relationships promote meaning, which tended to focus on aspects like belonging or support,” said M. Catalina Enestrom, lead author of the article, written while she was a doctoral student in psychology at McGill. She is now a post-doctoral fellow at IESE Business School in Barcelona. “We set out to explore whether sharing thoughts, ideas and concerns about the world with a romantic partner could enhance meaning by reducing uncertainty about one’s environment.”
A new understanding of the benefits of relationships
“As couples accumulate shared experiences, shared feelings, goals, and memories, they develop a generalized shared reality,” said senior author John Lydon, a psychology professor at McGill University. “This is different from simply feeling close or supported. It’s not just ‘my partner gets me,’ it’s ‘we get it.’”
Enestrom explained that shared reality can emerge from both shared experiences and shared interpretations.
“Shared reality can form, for instance, when a couple watches a horror movie together and one or both partners perceive that they both find it scary. But shared reality doesn’t necessarily require shared experiences. One partner can describe a stressful event they experienced, and if the other partner sees it the same way, this too can foster shared reality. As couples accumulate these shared reality experiences, they come to develop a sense of shared understanding about the world in general.”
A sense of coherence and purpose
Although there is no single definition of “meaning,” researchers often describe it as a sense of coherence and purpose. Prior studies have shown that experiencing meaning in life is associated with better coping, greater happiness and improved health outcomes.
To arrive at their findings, the researchers conducted five studies involving nearly 1,300 adults in Canada and the U.S, using a variety of methods, from lab-based tasks to online surveys and experiments, to test their hypothesis. They consistently found that a shared sense of reality reduced uncertainty, which in turn increased participants’ sense of meaning.
The study
“Meaning-making with romantic partners: Shared reality promotes meaning in life by reducing uncertainty” by M Catalina Enestrom, Maya Rossignac-Milon, Amanda L Forest,, John E Lydon
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: Interpersonal Relations and Group Processes
DOI: 10.1037/pspi0000472
Funding
The research was funded in part by the Social Sciences and Humanities Research Council of Canada and the University of Pittsburgh.
Journal
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
Subject of Research
People
Article Title
Meaning-making with romantic partners: Shared reality promotes meaning in life by reducing uncertainty
Article Publication Date
17-Jun-2025
Satisfaction in romantic relationships significantly fluctuates over several days and even within a 24-hour period
Willingness to recognize and respond to the partner's needs is a key factor determining relationship satisfaction
Johannes Gutenberg Universitaet Mainz
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Two couples with average (top) versus strong (bottom) fluctuations in relationship satisfaction, measured once a day over 14 days
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In romantic relationships, the partners' satisfaction with their relationship can vary considerably over several days and even in the course of a single day. This is the result of a new psychological study on short-term satisfaction in romantic relationships. "Fluctuations are quite normal. However, they may also indicate unsatisfied needs in the relationship," said Louisa Scheling of the Institute of Psychology at Johannes Gutenberg University Mainz (JGU), lead author of the corresponding article. According to Scheling, fluctuations in relationship satisfaction can be a good starting point for partners to talk about their own expectations and, at the same time, become aware of the partner's needs, thus contributing to an overall improvement in the quality of the relationship. The study was mainly conducted at JGU and has been published recently in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Also involved were researchers at Heidelberg University, Brigham Young University in the USA, the University of Basel in Switzerland, and the German Center of Gerontology (DZA) in Berlin.
High-frequency surveys to assess relationship satisfaction
For most individuals, romantic relationships are among the most important relationships in their lives. Relationship satisfaction plays an important role not only for the relationship itself, but also for health outcomes and life satisfaction. In the Western world, however, 30 to 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. Separation rates among unmarried couples are even higher. In the search for the root causes of this development, research has to date focused primarily on relationship satisfaction over periods of months and years. "In contrast, we have decided to take a narrow chronological approach to determine how satisfied partners were with their situation over the course of a few days and even within a 24-hour period," explained Louisa Scheling.
The research team evaluated data from two individual surveys of couples who reported on their individual relationship satisfaction on a daily basis or even several times each day. A total of 593 couples participated in the first survey and 150 couples in the second. The results of analysis of the data showed that partners experience substantial fluctuations in terms of how satisfied they are with their relationship. These fluctuations tend to be greater over periods of several days than during a single 24-hour period. Interestingly, the up and down swings of the degree of satisfaction reported turned out to be relatively synchronous for both partners over the course of time.
Mutual recognition of needs contributes to satisfaction
The researchers then considered various possible factors that might affect the outcome, such as age, gender, relationship duration, and attachment style. In fact, the perceived responsiveness of the partner proved to be a key parameter determining the course of satisfaction, while the emotional instability of male partners also had a notable effect. Louisa Scheling summarizes the findings of this part of the study as follows: "The reliable perception and fulfillment of the partner's needs contributes significantly to stable relationship satisfaction in everyday life. It's similar to a parent-child relationship: if needs are consistently met, satisfaction stabilizes at a high level."
The observed fluctuations in relationship satisfaction can, over the short term, be accompanied by thoughts of separation. Over the longer term, however, these have merely a limited effect on the course of the relationship over time. "It is possible that fluctuations in relationship satisfaction tend on the whole to mimic the current relationship dynamics between partners, rather than predicting the future development of the relationship," added Scheling. In her view, the findings of the study can help to support couples and show them, for example in the context of relationship counseling, that fluctuations in relationship satisfaction are normal but may serve as signals that there is room for improvement. "If this is to work, the partners have to be well aware of their needs and be able to express them clearly," the psychologist concluded.
Read more:
- https://press.uni-mainz.de/transition-point-in-romantic-relationships-signals-the-beginning-of-their-end/ – press release "Transition point in romantic relationships signals the beginning of their end" (21 March 2025)
- https://press.uni-mainz.de/adolescents-today-are-more-satisfied-with-being-single/ – press release "Adolescents today are more satisfied with being single" (25 June 2024)
- https://press.uni-mainz.de/new-emmy-noether-junior-research-group-focuses-on-couple-relationships/ – press release "New Emmy Noether junior research group focuses in couple relationships" (4 Oct.2023)
Two couples with average (top) versus strong (bottom) fluctuations in relationship satisfaction, measured five times a day over ten days
Credit
ill./©: Louisa Scheling
ill./©: Louisa Scheling
Journal
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
Article Title
Within-person variability and couple synchrony in state relationship satisfaction: Testing predictors and implications
Article Publication Date
17-Jun-2025