Sunday, November 03, 2024

After their son came out, this conservative Christian couple went into a closet of their own

“There is no hate like Christian love.”


John Blake, CNN
Sun, November 3, 2024

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As soon as Greg McDonald Jr. saw his parents, he knew he was in trouble. His father stood waiting for him with his arms folded and his brow furrowed. Beside him was Greg’s mother, her eyes red and puffy.

“Quick, pretend you’re interested in me,” Greg Jr. told his friend Betsy as he steered the speedboat toward the dock at his parents’ riverfront home outside Grand Rapids, Michigan.

Greg Jr. had just taken a group of friends out for a rollicking boat ride. It was late in the summer of 2001, and he was about to head off to his first year of college. In just a few weeks the 17-year-old thought he’d be free.

But while Greg Jr. was away his father, a conservative Christian, had checked his computer’s search history. He’d heard stories of young men being corrupted by the internet and had discovered his son’s secret: visits to gay porn sites.

As Greg Jr. stepped off the boat with his friends, his father looked sternly at the group. “You need to leave,” he said to the other teens.

Once they were alone, the father turned toward his son.

“Are you—?” he asked.

“Yes, I am,” Greg Jr. said, cutting his father off as he walked past his parents toward their house.

“You could be an axe murderer, and we would always love you,” his father called out after him. “But we need to get you fixed.”

You may think you kow what happened next. Greg Jr. prayed to God for deliverance. Pastors condemned him. Church members shunned him. Longtime friends disappeared, and he wrestled with shame because he felt like he had failed God and disobeyed the Bible.

But that’s not what happened to Greg Jr. That’s what happened to his parents, Greg Sr. and Lynn McDonald.

Their son’s admission would send the McDonalds on a journey that forced them to make agonizing choices about their faith and family. They would be thrust into the middle of a hidden crisis afflicting the conservative Christian community. And how they responded to their son’s admission would mushroom into a scandal — one that prompted two of the most prominent evangelical pastors in America to publicly question each other’s faith.

What triggered all these events was one fateful decision: After their son came out, the McDonalds went into their own closet.


A hidden crisis among conservative Christian families

If you’re seeking a model of a contemporary, conservative Christian couple, Greg and Lynn McDonald would seem right out of central casting. Warm and photogenic, they sprinkle their conversation with biblical quotations and self-deprecating humor.

The McDonalds live in a gated community along the banks of the Chattahoochee River, some 25 miles outside of Atlanta. Their neighborhood looks like a real estate brochure, with rows of large, uniform houses, spotless sidewalks and American flags flying from front porches.


A family photo of Greg McDonald Jr. as an 18-year-old hangs at his parents’ home. - Austin Steele/CNN

Their living room reflects their faith and love of family. A towering bookcase is lined with titles such as “God Sex and Your Child,” Rob Bell’s “What Is the Bible?” and Charles Swindoll’s “Getting Through the Tough Stuff.” Seven family photos adorn the wall. One of them is a portrait of their son, Greg Jr., around the time his parents confronted him about his secret.

Lynn, 65, steps to the wall and adjusts one of the photo frames.

“I can’t think clearly if things aren’t straight,” she says with a sheepish smile. “I like things in order.”



Greg Sr. is a solidly built man with a firm handshake who talks and moves with an air of crisp authority. He was an entrepreneur and a food broker, a person who sells food products to buyers. He retired at 47.

“I’m a fixer, a problem solver,” says Greg Sr., now 67. “Whenever there was a problem in business, they said, ‘Send McDonald.’ “

For some people, the McDonalds’ story may seem baffling. Having a gay child is no longer considered a problem that needs fixing. The Supreme Court established same-sex marriage as a fundamental right in its 2015 Obergefell v. Hodges decision. LGBTQ+ people are out in the workplace, hold hands in Ikea commercials and openly raise children. Most mainline Christian denominations affirm gay and lesbian people.

But there are millions of conservative Christians in the US who still do not accept what some call the “homosexual agenda.” They say normalizing LGBTQ+ relationships represents a threat to the American family and religious liberty. And their perspective is gaining political momentum. A record number of anti-LGBTQ+ bills were introduced across the US in 2023.



This backlash against LGBTQ+ acceptance has led to a crisis in the conservative religious community.

An estimated 40% of the nation’s youth experiencing homelessness identity as LGBTQ. Many of these youths are being cast out by conservative religious families. Some parents shun their gay children when they can’t change them. The harm that many LGBTQ kids suffer after being rejected by conservative religious families is widespread but barely acknowledged or addressed in conservative Christian communities, religious activists and LGBTQ+ youth advocates tell CNN.

Demonstrators protest the passing of SB 150 -- better known as Kentucky's "Don't Say Gay" bill -- on March 29, 2023, at the Kentucky State Capitol in Frankfort, Kentucky. - Jon Cherry/Getty Images

Greg Jr. says he didn’t tell his parents about his sexuality earlier because he’d heard stories of evangelical parents who refused to pay for their gay kid’s college or kicked them out of the house. Once on the streets, these forsaken youths are more likely to experience sexual assault, HIV infection, hate crimes, depression and suicide, according to True Colors United, a nonprofit group formed to address youth homelessness in the US.

The current share of homeless youth who are LGBTQ+ is likely larger than the 40% estimate because many of them end up surfing on the couches of friends or avoiding places where homeless adults gather because they’re afraid of being harmed, says Kahlib Barton, chief program officer with True Colors United.

Many LGBTQ+ youth tend to travel together, living in abandoned buildings and under freeway overpasses and often engaging in sex work for survival, Barton says. Virtually none of them go to the church for help.

“Most youth don’t feel comfortable going to a church because they’re either forced to engage in religious practices they don’t agree with or their sexual identity is not appropriately respected,” Barton says.

Greg Sr. didn’t know any of those stories when he told his son that he had to be “fixed.” He made that declaration 23 years ago, but he still winces at the memory.

“Boy, how I wish I could reel those words back,” he says. “And I can’t. We literally chased Greg Jr. away. Once those words leave your lips, it’s like eating shoe leather. It’s hard to recover from that.”

Their son, though, knew what awaited his parents before they did. When they enlisted the church to “fix” him, he would say something to them that would prove prophetic:

“There is no hate like Christian love.”

‘Peer pressure will sort him out’

The McDonalds didn’t think there was anything hateful about how they raised their son and his older sister, Connie. They wanted them to have the stability they never had as children. They raised the two children in a conservative Christian cocoon: church every Sunday, mid-week Bible study, Christian private schools; Christian contemporary music tuned 24/7 on the car radio.

They saw signs early on that their son might be gay. They say they were tipped off by his body language and what Greg Sr. describes as his son’s “tender-hearted” personality. They quietly took steps to address the issue.

“If a show came on TV, and it was ‘Will & Grace’ or if there was touching between two men, I’d grab the remote and turn to another show,” Greg Sr. says. When Greg Jr. was still a boy, the McDonalds shared their concerns with a Christian counselor.

He’ll be fine, the counselor assured them. “Peer pressure will sort him out,” he said.

Meanwhile, Greg Jr. was learning about hate at his Christian schools. He was bullied by classmates who hurled gay slurs at him. Teachers denounced homosexuality in classroom diatribes while looking directly at him. There were others who treated him with compassion, including art teachers who sensed his secret. He came out to several high school friends who made him feel accepted.


An undated family photo shows Greg Jr., Greg Sr., Lynn and Connie McDonald. - Courtesy Greg Sr. and Lynn McDonald

Even so, Greg Jr. learned to be quiet and blend in. That impulse was so ingrained that just before his parents confronted him after that speedboat ride, he still pretended to be straight by asking his friend, Betsy, to feign attraction to him.

“It was about being perfect all the time and not doing anything to stand out as deviant, or outside the norm,” he would say later. “You try not to be noticed.”

After their son came out to them, the McDonalds relied on the church to apply another form of peer pressure. They sent their son to youth counselors and pastors.

They persuaded him to try Christian “conversion therapy,” a widely discredited practice of trying to change a person’s sexual orientation through methods such as intensive prayer, aversion conditioning, and in extreme cases, exorcism. Greg Jr. went to one meeting and refused to return.

“We didn’t realize the harm we were doing,” Lynn says. “When you find out your child is gay in that environment, it’s overwhelming. I hate to say it, but I was also looking at myself. I was thinking, ‘This is disruptive. What is my life going to look like now? ’ ’’

Several months after their confrontation with their son, the McDonalds told their pastor and a select group of close friends. It took about two years for Greg Sr. to tell select business partners and co-workers. Some stopped talking to them. Others assured the McDonalds they would pray for their son’s deliverance from homosexuality. One told Greg Sr., “You gotta get a handle on your son.”

Still, Greg Jr. refused to be “fixed.”

A Christian counselor once asked him, “Don’t you want to go to heaven?”

“Not if you’re there,” Greg Jr. said.


‘I felt I had to choose between loving God and loving my child’

By this time Greg Jr. had moved away to attend DePaul University in Chicago. He and his parents barely spoke. He rebuffed their attempts to cite scripture. Their occasional visits were so strained that their son avoided being alone with them and surrounded himself with friends.

The tension filtered into the McDonalds’ marriage. They blamed one another.

“You should have taken him on more fishing trips—”

“Whose idea was it to let him take those art classes?”

“Well, you didn’t play baseball with him enough…”

The McDonalds thought a gay child was a failure of parenting. That was the dominant teaching in their conservative Christian culture.

They followed leaders like the author and psychologist James Dobson, founder of “Focus on the Family.” Dobson has ascribed homosexuality to such external factors as a domineering mother, an emotionally abusive father and being sexually molested as a child — beliefs that have been debunked by many scientific researchers.


James Dobson, founder and chairman of Focus on the Family, gestures while speaking at a rally on January 8, 2006, in Philadelphia. - Jeff Fusco/Getty Images

“We were Focus on the Family groupies,” Greg Sr. says. “We drank from the fire hose. If they published it, printed it or did a video, we owned it.”

Lynn McDonald says says her reaction to her son’s disclosure was also shaped by another source: the Old Testament story in which God demanded that Abraham sacrifice his son Isaac to prove his faith.

“I felt I had to choose between loving God and loving my child,” she says.

Her words may seem melodramatic, but not if you know her background. She grew up in a family where relatives struggled with mental illness and alcoholism. She married Greg Sr. when they were right out of high school. Both now say they were too young and immature. It took 12 years of counseling and prayer to preserve their marriage.

What saved her through it all? She says it was following the words in the Bible.

“My safe spot was the church,” she says. “There were parameters. If you followed them, nothing harmful will happen to you.”

But in the evangelical world, that safe spot came with a price. The McDonalds felt tremendous pressure to hide having a gay child. Not long after their son told them he was gay, they asked their minister if he could put them in touch with other parents of LGBTQ+ children in their congregation. He couldn’t. He didn’t know a single family in a congregation of about 5,000 people who were willing to talk about having a gay child.

The McDonalds joined this silence. They shared their son’s sexual orientation with a select group of friends and church members, but otherwise kept a tight lid on their family struggles. They worried about being disowned by friends, relatives, their church and their employers.

“There’s the fear about my reputation and my family’s reputation,” Greg Sr. says. “You have to keep this image just so.”

One night, the pressures of maintaining that image threatened to overwhelm Greg Sr. He was driving home, mired in depression. He felt like a failure as a father.

He spotted a bridge in front of him. As he drew closer, he accelerated. He aimed his car at the bridge’s concrete abutment. The slapping of his tires on the highway grew louder as he sped toward the bridge.

“As I got closer, I just decided that’s it,” he says.

But at the last second, he jerked the wheel and turned away from the bridge. He pulled off the highway and sat in his car, shaking. He then called his doctor to get a prescription for anti-depressants.

A conservative Christian walks into a gay bar

Not long after, Lynn was shaken by her own brush with mortality —one that led to a different result.

She and Greg Sr. had remained closeted for more than a decade, struggling with shame, after they learned their son’s secret. But in 2013, she faced another battle: She was diagnosed with breast cancer.

“I had to put on my big girl pants and get through this,” Lynn says.

What followed was months of chemotherapy, multiple surgeries and her hair falling out in clumps. She spent much of her time in bed and barely had enough energy to move. Her husband stood by her, but another person soon appeared at her bedside: Greg Jr.

Their son was now 29 and living in Chicago after attending DePaul and the Fashion Institute of Technology in New York City. At Greg Jr.’s invitation, his parents moved briefly into his Chicago condo. He washed his mother’s laundry and tucked her in at night. He took her shopping and purchased stylish caps and scarves to cover her hair loss.

Lynn began thinking of the years she had spent raising her son in a home where he was afraid to be himself. The years she spent quoting scriptures at him that condemned his homosexuality. But here he was, showing her compassion. Instead of anger, he was embodying Christ’s example — loving those who had scorned him.


Books on a shelf at the McDonalds' home in Duluth, Georgia. - Austin Steele/CNN

She lost her zest to preach at him.

“I saw my life flash before my eyes,” Lynn says. “I didn’t know how many days I was going to have on Earth to even be with my son. It wasn’t about changing him. It was about loving him and trying to make up for the years that I did lose with him when he was raised in our home.”

Around the same time, Greg Jr. reached out to his father in a different way. One night he asked his dad, “Wanna get a drink?” He took his father to a bar in Chicago called The Closet. It was, of course, a gay bar.

As Greg Sr. walked inside, he caught himself thinking: Gosh, if my conservative friends could see me now. His son introduced him to the bartender. Her name was Karen, but his son described her as his “momma bear.” She was the one who steered him away from guys who meant trouble and helped him with his college homework by holding up flash cards at the bar.

Karen was a lesbian, but that didn’t matter to Greg Sr. She loved and protected his son. He felt his attitudes shift.

“The reality is that I didn’t care anymore what my friends and co-workers thought,” he says. “I was far more concerned about my son and having a relationship with him.”

Lynn’s cancer went into remission. And a dozen years after that riverside confrontation, the McDonalds’ relationship with their son also started to heal.

But they still had to square this with their faith. They didn’t know how to answer this question: Can you still love God, the Bible and your gay son?

The search for that answer would lead Greg Sr. to an unexpected friendship. For Lynn, it would end one.

‘The Bible was not 
as black and white as I once thought’

To reconcile his son’s sexuality with his Christian views, Greg Sr. entered another arena that for evangelicals was as taboo as a gay bar: He started reading books and listening to sermons from religious and LGBTQ+ scholars who challenged his views on homosexuality. He came across a YouTube video of the man delivering a lecture at a New Zealand church. His name was David Gushee, one of the leading Christian ethicists in the US.

Gushee had White evangelical Christian roots. He became a born-again Christian in high school and later a Baptist minister. He, too, once believed that there could be no moral acceptance of gay and lesbian relationships.

A family crisis prompted the shift in his views. Gushee learned that his younger sister, Katey, had been hospitalized with depression, including one stay after a suicide attempt. She had struggled to accept her sexual identity as a lesbian before finally coming out.

Gushee started reexamining scriptures and the formation of the Bible. He talked to other LGBTQ+ people who grew up in the church but left. He heard horror stories about religious parents casting their kids onto the streets, where many fall prey to drug use and sexual predators.

Gushee took a stand. He urged for the full inclusion of LGBTQ+ people in the church.

He rejected the “welcoming but not affirming” approach that many churches attempt to avoid demonizing LGBTQ+ people and alienating traditional conservatives.

“They ultimately fail to include LGBTQ+ people in the Christian community on equal terms with everyone else, while doing continued spiritual, psychological, familial, and ecclesial harm,” Gushee wrote in his book, “Changing Our Mind.”


Lynn McDonald shows a snapshot of her son, Greg Jr., from when he was seven years old. - Austin Steele/CNN

By this time the McDonalds had moved to Georgia, where Gushee lived and taught at a university. Greg Sr. was so taken by Gushee’s book that he wrote a letter to him and invited him to lunch. The two men met and became friends.

“David’s book helped open my mind, not change my mind,” Greg Sr. says. “I began to realize that the Bible was not as black and white as I once thought.”

Greg Sr.’s solution to his theological questions was to focus on another color in the Bible — the red letters in the New Testament that are attributed to Jesus.

And he came to a conclusion: A Christian parent can love their LGBTQ child not in spite of their faith, but because of it.

“There are things in the Bible that may or may not make sense, but what you can be assured of is that Jesus says to love our neighbors as ourselves, and that includes our children, straight or gay,” he said.

Greg Sr. also says he realized something else.

“It was as much of a choice for Greg Jr. to be gay as it was for me to have brown hair.”
The McDonalds lose some old friends — and make new ones

Twelve years after they confronted their son about his homosexuality, the McDonalds started sharing their story with anyone who would listen.

“Once we stepped out of the closet, our phone started ringing,” Greg Sr. says.

They met Christian parents who shared their struggles. A community was formed. And in 2015, they formed a support group for Christian parents with LGBTQ children called “Embracing the Journey” — the signature line Greg used in his emails while his wife fought breast cancer. They filed articles of incorporation one month before Lynn’s last major surgery.

In doing so they met new people and lost some old friends. Lynn had befriended several women in a home Bible study group, where her ministry never came up in the discussion. One day she finally asked her friends what they thought about it.

One woman said she didn’t like to think about the religious debate over homosexuality because the subject was “horrible” and “full of pain.” She told Lynn she had a nephew who was gay and that she thought homosexuality was “disgusting.”

“And she just went on about how awful it must be to do this ministry, and I’m thinking, ‘That’s my life she’s talking about,’’’ Lynn says.

Lynn says her friendship with the woman ended after that Bible study. She never met with that group again.

There were others, though, who affirmed the McDonalds’ ministry. One of them was David Quinones. He was a lay leader in the Episcopal Church when it started to split in 2003 over the ordination of a gay bishop. Quinones opposed the ordination.

One night, Quinones and his wife, Deb, received a call from the hospital. It was their son, Josh, then a senior in college. He told them he had attempted suicide because he was tormented over being bisexual (he was scared at the time to tell them he was gay).

“He was afraid we weren’t going to love him anymore and that we would reject him,” Quinones says.


David Quinones, his wife, Deb and their son, Josh. - David Quinones

Quinones says he and his wife also reacted with shame and secrecy after their son’s admission. That changed after they attended an “Embracing the Journey” session and met other parents who shared their struggle. Many of those meetings ended in tears. The Quinoneses have since joined the McDonalds’ ministry.

“What we needed was to be able to talk to other people who were struggling,” David Quinones says. “There’s this false narrative out there: Either I love my gay child, or I love God.”

That narrative, though, still holds tremendous power in the evangelical world. That’s what the McDonalds discovered when they got swept up in a controversy over something they did for their son.

What happened, Greg Sr. says, would “break my heart.”

A ‘Satan-drenched theology’ comes under attack

It was called the “Unconditional Conference,” and was scheduled for September 2023 at North Point Community Church in suburban Atlanta. Led by Andy Stanley, North Point is one of the largest evangelical churches in America. The McDonalds had joined North Point during the same year they moved to Georgia.

The McDonalds organized the conference with “Embracing The Journey” volunteers, and Stanley agreed to host it. The two-day event was promoted with a tagline: “In a world that makes us choose sides, experience a conference from the quieter middle.”

But what happened after the conference was announced was anything but quiet. Critics pounced. One said the conference promoted “Satan-drenched theology.” Others said the McDonalds had become part of a campaign to shift traditional views on marriage and sexuality. Social media fanned the flames.


Greg Sr. and Lynn McDonald speak at the Unconditional Conference in 2023. - Sterling Graves

One of the conference’s most prominent critics was the Rev. R. Albert Mohler, an author, podcaster and president of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.

Mohler wrote a column arguing the McDonalds’ conference was designed as a platform “for normalizing the LGBTQ+ revolution.” He wrote that “in truth, there is no ‘middle space’” on homosexuality because all “same-sex sexual behaviors” are clearly forbidden by the Bible.

He then took aim at Stanley, saying that his decision to allow the conference to be held at North Point was proof that the pastor was inching away from “historic normative Biblical Christianity.”

“Sadly, it looks like the train is about to leave the station,” Mohler wrote.

Not long after Mohler’s column appeared, Stanley stepped before his congregation on a Sunday morning and did something he’d had never done before: devote an entire sermon to directly responding to his critics outside his church.

Stanley addressed Mohler near the beginning of his sermon.

“I want to go on record and say I have never subscribed to his version of biblical Christianity to begin with, so I’m not leaving anything,” he said.

Stanley then proceeded to defend the conference, and the McDonalds. He said North Point wasn’t backtracking on its belief that biblical marriage is between a man and woman. But he argued that evangelicals must deal with what was happening to LGBTQ+ children in their churches because “86%” of LGBTQ+ people in the US grow up in church, “but they leave at twice the rate of straight people.”


R. Albert Mohler, president of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, speaks at the National Conservative Conference in Washington D.C., on July 9, 2024. - Dominic Gwinn/AFP/Middle East Images/Getty ImagesMore

Stanley cited the McDonalds’ relationship with their son, and the isolation faced by many LGBTQ+ youth in the evangelical world. He also distanced his church from Mohler’s brand of Christianity.

“Bottom line, that version of Christianity draws lines. And Jesus drew circles,” Stanley said. “He drew circles so large and included so many people in his circle that it consistently made religious leaders nervous.”

While Stanley faced criticism from evangelicals, others would say he didn’t go far enough. They say a pastor should affirm, not accept, their gay members. But it’s what Stanley did before the sermon, though, that spoke just as loudly.

Greg Jr. had traveled to North Point’s sprawling campus before that Sunday to help his parents plan the conference. It was the first time he had set foot in a church in years. During one planning session, Stanley came by to greet the conference organizers. When he spotted Greg Jr., he dropped his backpack, walked up to him and gave him a hug.

Lynn McDonald looked on in amazement. Tears welled in her eyes.

“It was a healing moment, to see Andy love on my son,” she says. “Greg Jr. was finally being seen and heard.”

Stung by a deluge of public criticism, the McDonalds could have used a hug as well. For the first time, they were facing an army of anonymous Christian commentators trying to “fix” them. They wondered if they had inadvertently dragged their pastor into a no-win situation.

“It broke my heart,” Greg McDonald Sr. says today about Stanley’s sermon. “That he (Stanley) felt the need to do that to help his congregation understand why he would allow a conference to come to his church. There are plenty of LGBTQ+ people in churches, whether their pastors know it or not.”

Why did the McDonalds attract such withering criticism? The debate over homosexuality in the church is not new. Why was their public support for their son and other families like theirs so infuriating to many conservative Christians?

Gushee, the Christian ethicist, has a theory.

“They chose love over dogma,” he says. “The whole premise of their ministry is, ‘We’re not trying to tell you how to interpret scripture. But the bottom line is, love your child, stay in a relationship with them and go on the journey with them.’”
The McDonalds find a new family

One might say Greg McDonald Sr. stood up to all the criticism because of his faith, but there is another reason. He was bullied as a child because he had dyslexia. He failed the fourth and eighth grade. Some kids called him “retard” and teased him for riding on the “short bus,” a miniature school bus used to transport kids with physical and mental disabilities.

He hates seeing LGBTQ+ youth bullied.

“When I see someone being harassed and they can’t really fend for themselves, it makes the hair on my neck stand on end,” he says. “Especially when they’re bullied in the name of God.”

The McDonalds now have plenty of company on their journey. A year after the conference, they say their ministry has a team of 91 volunteers who offer support to families in England, South Africa, Australia, Ethiopia and other countries. They’ve written a self-help guide for parents of LGBTQ+ children called “Embracing the Journey,” and they speak at churches and conferences.


Greg McDonald holds a copy of his and his wife’s book, "Embracing the Journey." The book seeks to help Christian parents support their LGBTQ+ children. - Austin Steele/CNN

“The need is immense,” Greg Sr. says. “It just keeps growing. We wouldn’t be doing this if the church was already doing this. There are a lot of churches that are starting to do this, and we applaud them for that. But we need more churches entering in this conversation.”

The McDonalds have earned new nicknames within some parts of the LGBTQ+ community. They’ve been dubbed “McMom” and “McDad” by an assortment of LGBTQ+ children who have adopted them as surrogate parents after being rejected by their own families.

One of them is Patrick Potulski, who met the McDonalds through their son. Potulski was 21 when he says he fell out with his parents over his homosexuality. His parents are immigrants from Poland, a heavily Catholic country where homosexuality is still stigmatized.

He says the McDonalds invited him over to stay on weekends. They cooked dinner for him, played board games and watched movies with him. His parents eventually accepted him, but he says he won’t forget the McDonalds’ kindness.

“They were always so welcoming and accepting,” Potulski says. “Always offering a hug when I needed one.”

And Greg Jr.? He’s now a 40-year-old man with a thick mustache and a cheerfully blunt manner. An interior designer, he lives in Georgia and helps his parents with their ministry.

He no longer attends church, but he says he still considers himself a follower of Jesus. When asked what advice he would share with Christian parents with gay children, he says:

“Tell your kids you love them, teach them to be kind, let them be weirdos and let them fly their freak flag,” he says.

He then adds: “And don’t be an a**hole.”


Greg and and Lynn McDonald sit for a portrait with their son Greg Jr. at the McDonald home in Duluth, Georgia, on May 30. - Austin Steele/CNN

Greg Jr. is a stoic man, but his pride in his parents’ ministry is evident.

“My mom is the heart and soul of the ministry — my dad is everything else,” he says.

In recent years the McDonalds have added another face to the wall of family portraits hanging in their immaculate living room.

The largest photo shows Greg and Lynn with Greg Jr., and their daughter, along with her husband. Standing next to a beaming Greg Sr. is another person. He’s a tall, clean-shaven man with a boyish face. His name is Jon, and he’s Greg Jr.’s husband.

Greg Jr. and Jon were married in 2019. Jon has gone on vacations with the McDonalds and been to their house many times to cook meals and play board games.

“He loves my family,” Greg Jr. says. “He’s like their son.”

The McDonalds attended their son’s courthouse wedding. Lynn says it was “pretty surreal” to witness the ceremony.

“There was aways a little glimmer of hope that maybe he’d find a wonderful Christian girl and get married,” she says. “I was grieving when they said their vows. But I was also joyfully crying. I was grieving for my dream of what I wanted for my son, but also joyful that my son doesn’t have to do life alone anymore and he found someone who cares and loves him.”

How people regard the McDonalds’ journey may depend on their religious beliefs. Some say they have betrayed their faith. But the McDonalds say they’re even more committed to their Christianity — a faith that they say draws circles instead of lines.

The McDonald’s days of shame and secrecy are over. The Christian cocoon they built to shield their son may have crumbled, but once they broke free from it, their family soared.

After they discovered their son was gay, the McDonalds prayed to God that He would change him.

Their prayers were answered, they say — just not in the way they expected.

God changed them instead.

John Blake is a CNN senior writer and author of the award-winning memoir, “More Than I Imagined: What a Black Man Discovered About the White Mother He Never Knew.”

MODI'S FASCIST BJP

India protests Ottawa's allegation its home minister ordered targeting of Sikh activists in Canada

Associated Press
Updated Sat, November 2, 2024

FILE - Indian Home Minister Amit Shah speaks during a public meeting before Gujarat Chief Minister Bhupendra Patel filed his nomination for the upcoming Gujarat state assembly elections in Ahmedabad, India, Wednesday, Nov. 16, 2022. (AP Photo/Ajit Solanki, File)


NEW DELHI (AP) — India officially protested on Saturday the Canadian government’s allegation that the country’s powerful home minister Amit Shah had ordered the targeting of Sikh activists inside Canada, calling it “absurd and baseless.”

Relations between the two countries soured after Prime Minister Justin Trudeau said last year there were credible allegations the Indian government had links to the assassination of Sikh activist Hardeep Singh Nijjar in Canada. India has vehemently rejected the accusation.

New Delhi — long anxious about Sikh separatist groups — has increasingly accused the Canadian government of giving free rein to separatists from a once-strong movement to create an independent Sikh homeland, known as Khalistan, in India.


The diplomatic row led to the expulsion of each other’s top diplomats last month.

“The Government of India protests in the strongest terms to the absurd and baseless references made to the Union Home Minister of India,” Randhir Jaiswal, spokesman of India’s foreign ministry told reporters Saturday.

Jaiswal also said a Canadian diplomat in New Delhi was summoned on Friday and handed out a letter to formally protest the allegation. “Such irresponsible actions will have serious consequences for bilateral ties,” he warned.

Canada’s Deputy Foreign Affairs Minister David Morrison told Parliament members of the national security committee on Tuesday that he had confirmed Shah’s name to The Washington Post, which first reported the allegations. Morrison did not explain how Canada knew of Shah’s alleged involvement.

Canadian authorities have repeatedly said they shared evidence with India whose officials deny being provided with any proof. New Delhi calls the allegations ridiculous.

Nijjar was a local leader of the Khalistan movement, banned in India. India designated him a terrorist in 2020, and at the time of his death was seeking his arrest for alleged involvement in an attack on a Hindu priest in India. He lived in Canada, where about 2% of the population is Sikh, for nearly three decades.

Shah, who is 60 years old, is responsible for India’s internal security, as the country's home minister. He is widely considered the second most powerful politician in India after Prime Minister Narendra Modi. Shah has also been a close aide of Modi for decades.

Canada is not the only country that has accused Indian officials of plotting an assassination on foreign soil. The U.S. Justice Department announced criminal charges in mid-October against an Indian government employee in connection with an alleged foiled plot to kill a Sikh separatist leader living in New York City.

Vikash Yadav, who authorities say directed the New York plot from India, faces murder-for-hire charges in a planned killing that prosecutors have previously said was meant to precede a string of other politically motivated murders in the United States and Canada.

New Delhi at the time expressed concern and said India takes the allegations seriously.
Japanese nuclear reactor that restarted 13 years after Fukushima disaster is shut down again

MARI YAMAGUCHI
Sun, November 3, 2024 

This photo shows the Onagawa nuclear power plant, operated by Tohoku Electric Power Company, Inc., in Onagawa, northeastern Japan, Thursday, Oct. 24, 2024. (Juntaro Yokoyama/Kyodo News via AP)


TOKYO (AP) — A Japanese nuclear reactor that restarted last week for the first time in more than 13 years after it had survived a massive 2011 earthquake and tsunami that badly damaged the nearby Fukushima nuclear plant was shut down again Monday due to an equipment problem, its operator said.

The No. 2 reactor at the Onagawa nuclear power plant on Japan’s northern coast was put back online on Oct. 29 and had been expected to start generating power in early November.

But it had to be shut down again five days after its restart due to a glitch that occurred Sunday in a device related to neutron data inside the reactor, plant operator Tohoku Electric Power Co. said.


The reactor was operating normally and there was no release of radiation into the environment, Tohoku Electric said. The utility said it decided to shut it down to re-examine equipment to address residents' safety concerns. No new date for a restart was given.

The reactor is one of three at the Onagawa plant, which is 100 kilometers (62 miles) north of the Fukushima Daiichi plant where three reactors melted following a magnitude 9.0 earthquake and tsunami in March 2011, releasing large amounts of radiation.

The Onagawa plant was hit by a 13-meter (42-foot) tsunami triggered by the quake but was able to keep its crucial cooling systems functioning in all three reactors and achieve their safe shutdowns.

All of Japan’s 54 commercial nuclear power plants were shut down after the Fukushima disaster for safety checks and upgrades. Onagawa No. 2 was the 13th of the 33 still useable reactors to restart.

Japan's government last year adopted a plan to maximize use of nuclear energy and is pushing to accelerate reactor restarts to secure a stable energy supply and meet its pledge to reach carbon neutrality by 2050.

Concern about the government’s revived push for nuclear energy grew after a magnitude 7.5 earthquake hit Japan’s Noto Peninsula on Jan. 1, 2024. killing more than 400 people and damaging more than 100,000 structures. It caused minor damage to two nearby nuclear facilities, and evacuation plans for the region were found to be inadequate.


Robot retrieves first piece of melted fuel from damaged Fukushima nuclear reactor

Interesting Engineering
Sun, November 3, 2024


A remote-controlled robot has retrieved the first piece of melted nuclear fuel from the Fukushima nuclear power plant. The piece will now be analyzed to assess how radioactive materials at the site have degraded over time.

This is the first time the fuel has been assessed since the 2011 meltdown and the latest in a line of robotic explorations into the reactor over the last few years. The robot was sent into the reactor under the instruction of Tokyo Electric Power Company Holdings, which manages the plant.

The "Telesco" robot collected the fuel using a fishing rod-like appendage and successfully returned the sample for further study. According to reports, the robot collected a sample roughly the size of a piece of gravel, or 0.2 inches (5mm) in diameter, weighing about 3 grams (0.1 ounces).

The sample was collected from a mound of molten fuel debris from the base of Fukushima's reactor number 2's primary containment vessel. The fuel sample was then transferred to an enclosed container after retrieval by workers in full HAZMAT gear.
The sample will now be analyzed

This is only the first step in the process, however. The sample will be assessed to see if its radioactivity is below a standard. If not, the robot must return to the reactor to collect another sample.

According to reports, TEPCO team members are confident that the current sample is sufficient to make such an assessment. The sample-taken exercise began in August and was supposed to be concluded within a fortnight.

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However, technical issues delayed the robot's deployment into the reactor until Saturday (November 2). The first issue was a procedural mishap that held up the operation for around three weeks.

But the robot's woes didn't end there. During its next attempt, its twin cameras failed to provide first-person views of its environment, requiring the robot to abort its mission to replace the cameras.

Part of the cleanup process

The Fukushima Daiichi nuclear power plant lost its essential cooling systems during the earthquake and tsunami of 2011. This disaster resulted in meltdowns in three of its reactors. Approximately 880 tons of dangerously radioactive molten fuel are still present in these reactors.

To this end, TEPCO has conducted several robotic probes to determine how to decommission the plant safely.

On Wednesday, Telesco successfully extracted a piece from a designated area directly beneath the Unit 2 reactor core. According to TEPCO, this location is significant as it was where large amounts of melted fuel fell during the meltdown 13 years ago.

Plant chief Akira Ono stated that only the tiny sample could provide crucial data to plan the decommissioning strategy. This will include developing necessary technology and robots and retrospectively learning how the accident occurred.

The Japanese government and TEPCO have set a target of 30 to 40 years for the cleanup, but experts believe this timeline is overly optimistic and needs reassessment. No specific plans have been made to remove fuel debris at the time of writing.
AOC rallies with the UAW in Detroit, says a Harris victory will be delivered by the working class

Anna Liz Nichols
Sat, November 2, 2024 
MICHGAN ADVANCE




U.S. Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-NY)speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

The United Auto Workers Union (UAW) is a fighting union, U.S. Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-N.Y.) said Friday night while rallying with members in Detroit.

Speaking outside Solidarity House, the international home of the UAW, Ocasio-Cortez looked out at the crowd of a few hundred union members, thanking them for all the doors they’ve knocked for Vice President Kamala Harris and for the work they’ve done to protect the working class.

“UAW is going to be the union that protects women’s rights in America. UAW is going to be the front line in defending our democracy in America,” Ocasio-Cortez said. “I’m here because if there’s any place that I want to be on the precipice of such an important moment, it’s with you all.”

The UAW is raising the bar for every working American, Ocasio-Cortez said, not just for autoworkers.

Last year the union waged a historic 46-day strike against Detroit’s “Big Three” automakers — Ford, General Motors and Stellantis — and won new contracts to meet their demands. However, the union is still putting pressure on Stellantis to make good on its promises.

What can be won at the bargaining table can be taken away in the halls of justice, UAW President Shawn Fain said at Friday’s rally. That’s why the UAW gets involved in politics and is fighting just as hard in the election as they did on the picket line.

On stage overlooking the Detroit River, Fain quoted former UAW President Walter Reuther, saying, “There’s a direct correlation between a ballot box and a bread box.”

“The billionaire and corporate class don’t stop their attacks at the bargaining table,” Fain said. “They don’t stop at the workplace. They don’t stop at the border. They will take every inch that we give them. And the UAW founding leaders made it our responsibility to engage politically.” 

Detroit is where solidarity was built, Fain said, and America was built by solidarity, not billionaires or politicians. And on Tuesday, the UAW is betting on the fall of former President Donald Trump, who has railed against union organizing.

This summer, the UAW filed federal charges against Trump and his biggest donor, Tesla founder Elon Musk, asserting that they illegally intimidated and threatened workers, after the pair talked about labor practices during a live conversation on X.

The same evening the UAW was hosting its event in Detroit, Trump was hurling insults 20 miles north in Warren, saying Fain is a “poor, stupid fool.”

Fain and the UAW have been avid supporters of Harris’ campaign, with Fain and union members sharing the stage during Harris’ first presidential campaign visit to Michigan in August. Fain also spoke at the Democratic National Convention in August, where he revealed the “Trump is a scab” T-shirt that is now worn by UAW members.

Harris’ running mate, Minnesota Gov. Tim Walz, who also was campaigning in Michigan on Friday, walked with striking UAW members on the picket line last yearHarris walked with striking UAW workers in 2019

While President Joe Biden joined Fain and striking UAW workers in September 2023 in Michigan, Trump rallied at a non-union plant in Macomb County amid the “Stand up Strike.”

Several Democratic candidates and officials spoke at the event, including Lt. Gov. Garlin Gilchrist, Secretary of State Jocelyn Benson, U.S. Rep. Pramila Jayapal (D-Wash.) and Kimberly Ann Thomas, a Democratic-nominated Michigan Supreme Court candidate. Thomas is seeking an eight-year term and is running against state Rep. Andrew Fink (R-Adams Twp.). Justice Kyra Bolden Harris, who was nominated by Democrats, is running for a partial, four-year term against Branch County Circuit Court Judge Patrick William O’Grady, who was chosen by Republicans.

U.S. Rep. Rashida Tlaib (D-Detroit) encouraged voters not to forget the nonpartisan section of the ballot where state Supreme Court candidates are listed. The two seats up for grabs that will determine the partisan majority of the state’s highest court.

U.S. Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-NY)speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

Michigan Secretary of State Jocelyn Benson speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

U.S. Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-NY)speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

Attendees get UAW t-shirts a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

UAW President Shawn Fain speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

U.S. Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-NY)speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

Michigan Secretary of State Jocelyn Benson speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

U.S. Rep Pramila Jayapal (D-WA) speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

A sign outside a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

Michigan Secretary of State Jocelyn Benson speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

Michigan Secretary of State Jocelyn Benson speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

Michigan Secretary of State Jocelyn Benson speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

Michigan Secretary of State Jocelyn Benson speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

Attendees get UAW t-shirts a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

U.S. Rep Pramila Jayapal (D-WA) speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

U.S. Rep Pramila Jayapal (D-WA) speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

U.S. Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-NY)speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

UAW President Shawn Fain speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

Michigan Lt. Gov. Garlin Gilchrist II speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

U.S. Rep. Rashida Tlaib (D-MI) speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

U.S. Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-NY)speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

U.S. Rep. Rashida Tlaib (D-MI) speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

A sign outside a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

U.S. Rep. Rashida Tlaib (D-MI) speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

Michigan state Supreme court candidate Kimberly Thomas speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

UAW President Shawn Fain speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

U.S. Rep. Rashida Tlaib (D-MI) speaks at a get out the vote event at Solidarity House in Detroit on Nov. 1 2024, days before the presidential election. (Photo: Anna Liz Nichols)

And although Tlaib spoke ardently about her support for the UAW and the need to turn out the vote, she did not talk about Harris. As the only Palestinian American in Congress, Tlaib has withheld an endorsement for Harris out of disapproval for the Biden administration’s Gaza policy.

As Trump and Harris scrape for votes in all corners of Michigan, Arab-American voters and those who support the pro-Palestinian movement could be a crucial in a razor-thin race. Before Harris became the Democratic nominee, more than 100,000 Michiganders voted “uncommitted” instead of Biden in the Democratic presidential primary in an effort to draw attention to the violence in Gaza.

Trump, Harris and Green Party nominee Jill Stein have all secured endorsements from various Muslim and Arab-American leaders and groups.

But unlike Tlaib, Ocasio-Cortez and other members of “The Squad” are behind Harris this election. Winning the election for Harris is going to be hard work, but hard work is nothing novel in places like Detroit or the Bronx, Ocasio-Cortez said, adding that her New York neighborhood is like the cousin of Motown.

“We got the same fight and spirit out here. We got a chip on our shoulder because we know what it means to be underestimated, and we know what it means to come from a place where people want to talk down on us, but they actually don’t know the first thing about us,” Ocasio-Cortez said, a jab at Trump’s comments last month while in Detroit saying, “Our whole country will end up being like Detroit” if Harris becomes president.  

There’s no shame in hard work, Ocasio-Cortez said, recalling doing her homework on other people’s kitchen tables growing up while her mother cleaned other people’s houses. She would later join her mother cleaning houses and then worked as a waitress before beating a 10-term incumbent to serve in the U.S. House of Representatives.

“Hell yeah, we’re gonna be like Detroit,” Ocasio-Cortez said. “We’re gonna knock on every door. We’re gonna turn out the vote, and we’re gonna remind people what happens when you forget where you come from. … Because Detroit will not allow a scab in the White House, not if UAW has anything to do with it.”

Trump is sowing seeds of division, Fain said, adding that he’s no different than bosses that attempt to halt labor organization in order to hold onto flimsy power at the expense of the working class. Disinformation is one of Trump’s biggest tools, along with turning members of the working class against each other.

But Michigan sees through the lies, Benson told the crowd. 

Right now there is a “very serious, coordinated effort rooted in lies and misinformation and discord” trying to convince Michigan voters that the election doesn’t matter, that the results won’t be accurate, Benson said. This is Trump’s repeat of his attempts in 2020 to sow chaos amid the democratic processes, saying the election was “stolen” and inciting the violence of the Jan. 6, 2021, attack on the U.S. Capitol.

Trump is trying to make voters feel small, like their voices don’t matter, Benson said, in an effort to roll back the advancements of democracy, advancements the UAW has also fought for.

“What those bullies don’t want us to do is stand up to them,” Benson said. “We’re going to stand up to anyone, anywhere, anytime who tries to stand in the way of our rights and our freedoms. We will stand up to bullies. We will stand up to lies. We will stand up to anyone who tries to take our voices away and say ‘Not on our watch.’” 

As of Friday, more than 2.5 million ballots had been cast in Michigan through early in-person voting and absentee ballots ahead of Tuesday’s election, Benson said.